Today’s guest post is by Aaron Huey, who walks his talk big time.
The Desperate Divinity of Masculinity
I see yet another boy left alone to find his way to manhood without guidance from his father. I see it and I deal with it everyday. I see the suffering lost boy trying not to turn into Captain Hook again and again.
I see and feel the feminine reaching towards their divinity. The struggle of feminism has become a powerful cause trumpeted throughout schools and workshops, camps and seminars. More women graduate from HS and College now. More enter the workplace.
The silent war on boys continues. Boys raised by mothers who cannot understand (or have suffered from) the darkness of masculine emotion and compartmentalization of feeling and love, grow up unable to comprehend their own masculine emotions. Boys who’s fathers move further and futher away, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually… as their lives get hard and complicated, these boys are left alone to fend for themselves in a wilderness that they are not CAPABLE of surviving in without serious compromises. Not because they are lazy or unwilling… No-one taught them how.
From all outward appearances Peter Pan seem to do pretty well. Truth was, his life was a mess. That’s why he turned into Captain Hook.
As women begin to embrace their inherent power, who among us men will dare to call himself God to balance these Goddesses? What man will step forward and express the divinity of the judgmental, absent, elusive, father figure who condemns us as well as loves us for our struggle?
Connecting with God comes with certain rules and boundaries that are available only to the learned.
Connecting with the Eternal Father is a mystery protected by morals and dogma.
The Goddess is a all flowing force of authentic feminine presence. If every woman is a Goddess…
What is God? Is he me? Is he my absent, alcoholic, dead father who awaits me with reward for my triumph of life? Is he my loving and present dad who continues to guide me through his judgment of my contribution?
Am I He for my step-son? How dare I say that…
Men, we must find ourselves for our sons. We must include them in our lives, our work and our hearts.
What the fuck are we waiting for? When do we realize that our children suffer without us? When do realize that we are not supposed to work, live, or be parents alone? When do we stop letting our feelings get in the way of our work AS FATHERS? What excuse could possibly be powerful enough to leave the boys of this world stranded as mortals among women who are embracing their Divinity? How will they ever find balance?
If you are a present father in your son’s life…thank you. If you are not, please read the last paragraph.
Here is to true balance.