I’ve been playing at the Venn intersection of sex, consciousness and healing for over 40 years. That officially makes me OLD.

I’ve worked with thousands of men and women in astonishingly intimate ways. That makes me HUMBLE.

I’m done with men being force-fed images of a fake masculinity that doesn’t exist in the real world. That PISSES ME OFF.

Authentic masculinity is infinitely fascinating. There is no end to our shadows, or our light. Women – and men – crave these deeper connections with us. That makes me SHOUT FOR JOY.

Come join our exploration. Be who you REALLY are – and share your own unique deep masculine with the world.

Love & Blessings,

David Cates

  • http://www.evanflorybarnes.com Evan Flory-Barnes


  • Janel_miranda

    Hi, David,

    Awesome site.

    I’d like to invite you to view a preview/draft of the screening version of my film series, “The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film series for and about men”. It’s a very layered film including talking about the soul coming in at birth and a mens’ movement of making birth safe.

    The link is http://www.vimeo.com/18178759

    Here’s what a father said after viewing the preview:

    “Janel, I watch a lot of birth videos (my wife is a midwife and it seems to be some sort of professional obligation). Recently, I have been horrified by what I see. Watching the previews you’ve had up recently has changed the way I understand what I am seeing. This is especially true around the parts dealing with “What would it take to make an adult scream like that?” You have changed the way I think about, view, and evaluate births that I see and hear about. My feelings about the birth of my own children has changed. Really, my world has changed.”

    I am planning a Father’s Day week premiere in LA.

    I hope you can check it out soon and I appreciate any feedback you can give me.

    Thank you for your time and consideration.
    All the best,


    Janel Mirendah
    Baby Doula/CranioSacral based Birth Trauma and Attachment Therapist/Birth Videographer

    Check out the fund raiser trailer for my film: “The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men ” on http://www.theothersideoftheglass.com

    • David Cates

      This sounds like an awesome project, Janel! I’m excited to see the video. Friend me (facebook.com/david.cates) and/or Nekole Shapiro on Facebook to get into the Seattle loop of the birthing movement.

  • http://www.SexCoaching.com Pam Babbitt

    Wisdom…humility…authenticity…joy. I’m IN!
    And, I’m excited about sharing your words with my visitors on http://www.SexCoaching.com.

    Much appreciation,

    Pam Babbitt

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  • Vixen on the Loose

    Badass! You made me laugh AND want to support you at the same time. Now I’m off to read “The Women Know What I’m Talking ‘Bout”…